Without much surprise, the first thing I did upon my arrival home was turn on the TV, and lazily sprawl out on the couch. The Wilkins household likes to keep our DVR well-stocked with Modern Family episodes, and Thanksgiving break is the perfect time for me to catch up on my favorite show.
There are many things that I love about Modern Family. The writing is smart, each story line is hilarious, and I’m 99.9% positive that Phil Dunphey’s character is based on my dad (the similarities are impeccable). I like that it focuses on non-traditional family dynamics, and each episode reminds me why I love my own family.
Tonight’s episode ended with a monologue that made me stop in my tracks (spoiler alert if you haven’t seen the episode yet). It may seem a little bit out of context without viewing, but this episode centralized around half of the family members believing that it is important to encourage others even if they disagree, while the other side thought it was best to react realistically. In the end, Cameron says:
There are dreamers, and there are realists in this world. You’d think dreamers would find dreamers, and realists would find realists, but more often than not, the opposite is true.
You see, dreamers need the realists to keep them from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists? Well, without the dreamers, they may never get off the ground.
I sat there slouched on my couch (rhyme!) and truly thought about that statement. I couldn’t help but wonder, am I a dreamer or a realist?
I have always been a stickler for rules, and I have a tendency to be blunt. Spontaneity is one of my worst enemies — I like following plans and formulating activities logistically. However, I also have a curiosity that burns from within. I yearn to ask questions, and constantly imagine different possibilities. I have the ability to think beyond the bare minimum, and I have a desire to change the world.
Is it possible to be both a dreamer and a realist? I’m not sure. What I am sure about is that we will always need both dreamers and realists to achieve a progressive and prosperous society.
Often, it is hard to agree with others who have different perspectives from you. Usually, it is easier to side with those who share similar opinions. But regardless of whether you are a dreamer, a realist or even both, the truth is that we all need to work together to balance out and improve our world. Without each other, we are nothing.